Affairs

I do not judge affairs as good, bad, right or wrong. Affairs are a way of coping. Some people eat too much, drink too much, or shop too much to avoid facing and dealing with issues in their relationship. Some have affairs. Let us explore your affair and the purpose it serves. It may seem hopeless right now, yet you too can have the relationship of your dreams, whoever that may be. Let's unravel the web so you can be free to find you dream come true AND believe it exists.

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF:

What is your investment in seeing someone outside of your relationship?
Are you afraid of commitment or intimacy?
Is it a lack of communication?
Where did you learn to cope this way?
Are you in love with someone outside of your relationship and do not know what to do?
Do you have a patter of choosing a married person?
What are the signs and why do you miss them?
Why do you need to believe evey excuse they give you for not leaving their marriage?
Is it them or is it you?

CAN YOU ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS:

Where did you learn to cope this way?
Do you know where they live and have you visited there?
Do the reasons they give for not leaving the relationship add up?
Have you met their family and friends?
Do you spend holidays with them?
Does it seem they can only see you during the week?

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